Cognitive distortions series: heaven's reward fallacy
This is part of a series looking at the most common cognitive distortions, how they show up, and what you can do to start becoming more aware of them in a personal, career and team context that I originally posted on Instagram. You can read more about cognitive distortions and find links to other posts here.
What is heaven's reward fallacy?
Emotional reasoning is the belief that your feelings are automatically and completely true. When emotional reasoning takes over, logic and objectivity go out the window to be replaced by an acceptance that your emotions are facts. It's a REALLY common distortion, one that can lead to people being described as 'too emotional' or 'unpredictable'. It's actually pretty normal to engage in some degree of unhelpful emotional reasoning at some point in your life - remember when you were sure you couldn't ride a bike because you were scared?! It can become really limiting when it becomes a default way of viewing your world that impacts on your actions in one or more areas of your life though.
How heaven's reward fallacy shows up
Emotional reasoning can often lead to procrastination or a feeling of being stuck. Because an emotional reasoner FEELS like the next step isn't clear, it truly isn't.
How it might show up for you:
In your life
Thinking your partner has feelings for someone else because you're feeling jealous.
In your career
Thinking a change in career is impossible because you feel overwhelmed by the work required to do it.
In your team
Team members thinking each other incapable because they feel distrust.
Challenge thinking by